Just Divorced, Recently Broken Up, or Separated? Learn the new rules for playing the field

I’m writing about getting back into the dating scene for a few reasons. A lot of people who break up don’t know what the next step they should take to get back into socializing. Even if they are ready to start dating again, it could be years since their last date. This post is for both men AND woman. I’m writing for everyone…

Are you recently divorced or split up after a long term relationship? We all know that getting back into dating scene can be a very difficult, confusing and stressful time. Especially if you were with someone for a long time and haven’t been playing the field.

When was the last time you went on a date with someone?  Has it been more than 2 or 3 years? Because if it has been, then you need to learn the new rules to dating. Things change yearly with new technology, social standards, mannerisms and more. Now that you are going to be playing the field again, it’s important to learn what the new rules to dating are! (And yes, the rules to dating change every year…) and just to give you some examples. 20 years ago the dating scene was very different than it is today. People would go to dinner, and a movie. Now a day’s most people don’t do dinner and movie any more. Going to a movie is not a good way to get to know someone, and eating dinner together might be too formal for a first date.

Dating today is different than it was, and it will continue to change. No matter if you are a male or a female, or if you are straight, bisexual, or even bicurious…what should you expect on a date: Pulling out a chair, holding doors, paying the bill, things to talk about/things definitely NOT to talk about. It’s important that you learn what is now the social standard when dating. 5 years ago MySpace was the “in” website, but today it’s Facebook being the social standard. Is it ok to Facebook someone new right away? You might think it could be a good way to learn about someone, but do you want them seeing who you are friends with, the pictures you are in, and reading what your friends post on your page? These are just a few things to think about…

Even the location of where you live can play a huge role in dating. What might be socially acceptable in New York City, might make someone cringe in Nebraska. When you were in a long term relationship, did you move? Are you living in an area that you have never been single before?  The last time you went on a date, if you were more than 100 miles away from the new town you are in now, things can be different.

10 years ago it wasn’t socially accepted to tell people you are on dating websites, where as today almost everyone knows a couple who have met, fallen in love and have even married thanks to a dating website. Many of the people will even be proud to admit it!

SO……………………………………you might be thinking, how can I learn what is right/wrong and how to play the field again? You can go on every date you can make and learn from what works/doesn’t work by trial and error. A plus is that you would most likely meet a lot of new people, but the drawback is you might be ruining chances with someone you could have potential with. If you say or do the wrong thing on the date, the person you are with might be turned off, or offended by what you say.

Not only do I have the better option, but I have the solution. Practice dates.
You might be asking, what’s a “practice date”? Good question, but it’s exactly what it is… it’s a practice date. The best way to go about doing so is to find someone who you can talk to and explain your situation to. Explain to them that you want to get back into the dating game, but aren’t too sure what to do. Ask them if you could go on a practice date with them. Tell them that you are not looking to get involved with them, but you want them to give you advice by pretending to be your date.

Now I will explain how RentAFriend.com can help you get back into playing the field. RentAFriend.com has over 283,000 Friends from around the world. Most likely there are Friends living near you. (you can search 100% for free to see if there are available friends by visiting the website). Next you can join RentAFriend.com and become a member. Being a member of the website will allow you to contact any of the Friends on the site. Next you want to look for someone that is the same age as the person you would be interested in dating. This is important because you want someone who can relate to the age of the person you are interested in.  Explain to them your situation, (If you are a member you can call the Friend directly on the phone or email them through our anonymous messaging system to protect your identify) and tell them what you are looking to do. Explain that you are out of a long term relationship and are looking to start dating soon, but you are looking for someone who can help you with the social standards of dating in 2010.  Tell the Friend you are looking to go out on a “practice” date to re-freshen up on your dating manners. Tell them you just want to be guided and critiqued on what to do and not do on a date. Explain to them you are not interested in dating them, but are interested in renting them to help you practice your interactions.  Not only will you learn a lot from the Friend, but the practice will also increase your confidence.

RentAFriend.com is NOT a dating website, so it’s important that you are honest with the Friend and explain to them your situation and reasons for hiring them. Tell them about your concerns you are having about getting back into dating.

RentAFriend.com is strictly a platonic friendship website where you can rent a new friend to show you around a new area, help introduce you to new people, attend a wedding or business event with you and much more.

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